What do you do when someone just hurt you so bad and you
just cannot trust them no matter how much you try? You have tremendous pain in
your heart because of the reckless decisions they are making.
Well,sis…first I pray that you stand with boldness and
with authority because even when you cannot see hope or any light, you are a
child of the most high God. He is always there to comfort and to provide for
you.
But you ask what do you do? You let go….you let go of trying
to control the situation. You truly, with all your heart, give it all to the
Lord. You surrender sis. God wants you to move out of his way so he can work
his purpose for that loved one through you. When you choose to surrender that comes
with discomfort. It feels so horrible but you are strong because of the Lord
and you can push past those emotions. Remember the enemy wants you to feel all
sorts of ugly emotions for that person so you cannot forgive and you can judge
and be oh so critical to them.
There is much pain before a child is birthed right? You go
through labor and contractions and discomfort and it hurts…BAD. But at the end
you have a precious beautiful child that you can hold and see that you pain was
not in vain.
Letting go and trusting God through this trying life storm
will cause you to suffer A LOT BUT you will rejoice later my sister. I am,
speaking from years of experience. The Lord makes mention of this in Psalm
30:11 (You turned my sorrow into joyful dancing). He will turn it. He is a
turnaround God but he needs you to take your hand off of it. Not saying you
need to rid that person out of your life. I am saying you let the Lord heal
your heart work on you so that you can be used for that individual. They need
to have a relationship with the gracious Father you serve.
The Lord is the only
one that can help you to heal, let go and forgive in that area. I do understand
how it feels to have your life ripped into two because of a careless decision
that a loved one made. No matter how hard we want to try and control the whole
situation, we cannot and you must try and come to grips with that.
It is my belief that
God wants to build our faith through what seems like a heartless event that
another caused. I believe there is greater purpose there. You may ask: why does
the decision of one have to make me pay personally? Or is this not their issue
Monique? Why did they bring me all up in the mix because they are a hot mess
with life choices?
It is not our job to judge anyone’s sin even if it is
your spouse, mother, child or whomever. You do have to trust and know that as a
believer God is having you go through this for some reason. Our job, no matter
what is to love and forgive and maybe love that person from a distance BUT not
to give up on them. The whole situation is much bigger than little ol you. God
is trying to save your loved one possibly. Their reckless and thoughtless decisions
hurt you because of course you are the one closest to them. But did you ever
question why are they making such heartless decisions, ones that try to ruin
good people’s lives? Sis, they need the loving touch of Jesus in their heart.
They do not know that they have a Father who loves and cares for them, one who
wants to mend their broken soul so they don’t go about this world doing life on
their own. Have you not been there before? Have you not made stupid decisions
and wished someone was in your corner? No matter how big or small the sin is it
is sin and God hates it. You can hate the sin BUT please do not hate the
sinner. They need you. The only Jesus they will see, and you heard this time
and time again, is YOU. You are the only Jesus they will see so yes you will
have to sacrifice your comfort some so that maybe, just maybe they can get to
know our King. Is it not worth it?
If you believe with all your heart that is Jesus is Lord.
Than you will know that he has purpose in all that you go through. Absolutely
no trial you go through will EVER be in vain. He wants to use you. Are you up
for being used? Will you be obedient to the Lord and sacrifice your pain to
carry another who is in much greater pain than you?
I pray in the name of Jesus, that you dig deep and find
courage to let go and let God move in the heart of another BUT through you.
In Christ,
Monique Smith
Prayer Starter:
Oh Jesus, I am a mess right now. I feel so confused
Father God. Please guide me and show me your ways because I do know they are
greater than mine. My loved one is hurting and they need you and if that means
that you need to use me, I say yes Jesus. Use me to let my loved one see your
mercy, love and grace. Help me to be patient with them. Help me to remember how
it was when I was in my sin and needed you. Thank you Father that you are
working on our behalf. I declare victory on the other side of all this pain.
Thank you that you can convict my heart in a way that brings forth much fruit. You
will turn my mourning into dancing, I trust you. I love you Lord and I honor
you with my responses to this individual. Amen
